Instagram – Left to Right, Top to Bottom:
1. Real life sunshine…in London!
2. Twitter-overdosed on the Olympics Opening Ceremony.
3. The bub can’t get enough of London 2012.
4. Edible food! Produced by me!
5. There is something truly wonderful about a coffee nook with books.
6. Attacked by the wind and rain.
7. Preview of the Goin In’ makeup tutorial.
8. Taking a cat nap.
9. Towel head and baby boo.
When I was invited to Regent Tweet a few weeks ago, I didn’t know what to expect. “An experiential shopping and lifestyle event for women that engages Regent Street’s fashion and lifestyle shops, bars and restaurants with online influencers” by description, however, piqued my interest. We all know I love me some Twitter, and with an itinerary full workshops and Twitter-based prize draws, there could have been many worse ways to spend my Saturday.
The best part turned out to be the friendships made, in fact. After falling in love with Katie while checking in at the Swarovski Crystallized lounge, we ended up spending the following eight hours together and meeting more lovely women and gentlefolk in the process. (Shout out to Felicity and Rosie – wonderful ladies and unexpected soulmates!)
This is a must-do event, guys. First, Katie and I bolted to Jaeger and became two of the lucky 50 bloggers who won £50 gift vouchers. The rest of our day included a cuticle glossing treatment and blow dry at FOUR London (see above!), coffee and pastries from hidden gem Tibits, Godiva chocolate, pampering goodies courtesy of Crabtree and Evelyn, cocktails and tapas from Aqua (one of London’s best rooftops), ice cream from Freggo, a T-shirt in a tin from Superdry, an Airform top from Uniqlo, a Moleskine notebook from Sebago (obsessed!), a food and health ‘tweet treat bag’ from Wholefood Market (poor babies had a boiling water flood before our cupcake-making masterclass!), a nail varnish from The Organic Pharmacy, cocktail making classes at The Living Room, and a delicious chilli-topped martini at Dirty Martini. Swag meets perfect ‘girl’s day‘.
As I mentioned on Twitter, today was the kind of day that called for a blog. Why? I spent my afternoon with Tom Ford.
Well, Tom Ford and 100-something other fashionistos and istas. The occassion? The Apple Store on Regent Street held “Tom Ford In Conversation With Paula Reed” (Grazia’s Style Director) today.
Unsurprisingly, Tom sent everyone’s hearts a-flutter. As well as being the legendary designer who made Gucci and Yves Saint Laurent into what they are today, he is incredibly charming, witty, and well-spoken. Though the full interview will soon be up on iTunes for your enjoyment, I thought I would share a few of my interview highlights below.
The shoe is a piece of architecture. It stands on its own. There’s a vocabulary that has to relate.
Of course I doubt myself. In fashion, you have to doubt yourself until the very last minute.
On having fashion in the blood:
I have a niece and her first word was shoe.
On moving from Santa Fe to New York at the start of his career:
I knew I had to get out. I knew it was the place for me and I knew that I had to go.
Confidence is a funny thing. Funny…and always on my mind. Yesterday, I noticed that in a list of about 10 things I “take in” upon meeting people, I make a point to become conscious of how confident someone else is feeling. I can only assume I’ve been doing this for years, as I tend to overcompensate with friendliness if I can sense someone feels self-conscious.
Contrary to what you may expect, confidence is just as rare in the fashion and beauty industry as it is anywhere else.
It got me thinking about my own level of confidence. The growth of it, to be exact. At 22, I have been told I possess a level of confidence (or a self-assured demeanor) that is few and far between. A confidence that allowed me to move internationally multiple times, pitch to some of the biggest companies in the world, be comfortable when I ‘stand alone’, etcetera. Four years ago, I wasn’t like this.
Let me take you back to high school. Kind of. As a precursor to this story, I have to explain that due to a few traumatic personal problems, I put in some urgent and hard work to graduate with a Honors diploma a few years before my peers. I left show choir (yes, Glee), musicals (the highlight of my teen life), and the ‘security’ of being a Honors student behind.
In 2008, as the rest of my peers went to prom and graduated, I had already attended college and began to build a successful name for myself. Out of the blue, my Freshman year English teacher invited me to come back to attend a small party at the school where the rest of the Honors class would be looking back at the ‘start’ of high school life (when we were in her class) and the journey from that point.
At that point, it seemed like a great excuse to catch up with friends who I hadn’t seen in months (due to my awkward schedules and travelling) and wish everyone my best as they went off to college. My inner ‘expectations vs reality’ video was numbing.
At this ‘party’:
a) I was stared at (we’re talking “why are you here?” stares) by everyone but two kind friends.
b) A boy – who I barely knew – loudly joked to a table of our peers about the fact that I was wearing heels and had a visible tattoo.
c) I was completely ignored by girls who I had considered to be friends.
d) A Looking Back photo slideshow was presented, and every time I was on screen I would hear a table of former friends snigger and make comments.
I can’t tell you anything else that happened in the hour I was there. The words and actions spread from my stomach to my head like a virus. I left the building and climbed into my friends car. Deciding to miss the event herself, she consoled my apparent hurt (“Who died?!”) by telling me that many of the aforementioned girls had been gossiping about me throughout the school day.
Do they hate me because I’m wearing makeup? Do they hate me because I couldn’t explain why I had to leave? Do they hate me because I’ve gained weight? Do they hate me because they’ve always hated me and I’m only realising now? Then it hit me…they didn’t hate me. Be it jealousy, or self-consciousness, or whatever personal problems cause someone to deflect viciously…I had done nothing to deserve the comments and the comments had nothing to do with me.
With that in mind, I made the decision to stop caring. There and then. To never feel lonely or hurt, I chose confidence as my new priority. I was (and still strive to be) a strong, successful, happy, kind, and optimistic young woman. I was actively pursuing the best I had to offer. There is no room for lack of self-confidence in that formula. No need to justify who I am or what I do.
The mind/matter Seuss philosophy is the purest instigation for confidence, and what I suppose could represent the ‘moral’ of this braindump. Confidence is a) a blanket word to cover everything that defines taking chances, accepting the cards you’ve been dealt, pursuing happiness, AND b) vital.
I hope this helps you find yours.
- Earlier in the week, The Post reported a rumor earlier this week that J.Crew president Jenna Lyons wold be divorcing artist Vincent Mazeau as she “has fallen in love with another woman who also works in the fashion business“. Insiders have since revealed said woman to be Courtney Crangi, the sister-slash-business partner of jewelry designer Philip Crangi.
“After the breakup, Jenna fell in love with Courtney, whom she had been friends with for some time. They’ve known each other for years through the fashion business. Courtney is an attractive blonde who balances working hard with her family.”
- An un-named source
- Karl Lagerfeld has tapped Carine Roitfeld to style Chanel‘s upcoming campaign for Spring/Summer 2012! According to Uncle Karl, the shoot is “all about athletics and the sea…it’s very modern sportif and in black-and-white”.
- Former reality TV star/author/fashion designer/(I’ve missed something, I’m sure) Lauren Conrad has decided to follow her latest venture, beauty blog thebeautydepartment.com, with a beauty book. The appropriately named tome – “Lauren Conrad Beauty” – is sure to be a huge hit.
- TV chef Paula Deen is said to be cooking up a clothing line (pun intended). You know what they say, after butter-flavored lip balm comes couture.
- At its biannual board meeting this week, the CFDA elected award-winners Marc Jacobs and Proenza Schouler‘s Jack McCollough and Lazaro Hernandez to join their board! Congratulations, boys! At the same time, Nicole Miller, John Bartlett, and Richard Lambertson all left the board.
- Rumours are a-spinning that Gisele may have shot Givenchy‘s latest campaign, which would mark the first time since Fall/Winter 2007 that Mariacarla Boscono wouldn’t front a Givenchy campaign. After closing their Spring/Summer 2012 show and male model Noah Mills tweeting that he would be “going to jamaica tomorrow to shoot with Gisele”, it seems to almost be a certainty.
- Next year, your dreams will come true. If you’re a crazed fan of America’s Next Top Model, at least, as the Tyra Banks-fronted reality show is finally (sarcasm) getting a branded fragrance, “Dream Come True“. The fragrance launch will be exclusive to Target next year and will feature the winner of the show’s All-Star Cycle (currently showing) as the face of the campaign.